"The relationship between a person and another is the most powerful therapeutic tool there is!"
Why is it some people are able to heal, progress rapidly and/or make amazing life style changes; and some people can't or don't? It is often due to the strength/existence of their personal and clinical RELATIONSHIPS- Carl Rogers (famous phsychologist who developed the foundation for Western Education System).
I am going to tell you the THREE qualities that you can develop which have the ability to transform a regular relationship into a therapeutic one too (this means it has the capacity to treat, prevent or manage disease)!
(I think this applies to clinical relationships AS WELL AS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS)
- Genuineness (trustworthy)
GENUINENESS: this is the ability to be YOURSELF in a relationship despite your role (i.e. mother, wife, friend, employee...). Also, added by me, I feel it is having a true and honest interest on their behalf. You really want the best for that person... regardless how reckless, obnoxious, wonderful they are!
EMPATHY: This one is really important to distinguish from sympathy. To have empathetic qualities you gain the ability to "APPRECIATE" that person's experiences. THE ACTIONS associated with empathy include: LISTENING to total communication which include their gestures, feelings AND words.
Remember when dealing with your loved ones, peers, coleugues, and co-workers that YOUR RELATIONSHIP with them is scientifically proven to be ONE of the BEST defenses against disease, or disease progression, and/or healing from disease (and for your own "warm fuzzies").
Certain phrases can have a calming effect, no MATTER HOW STRESSED THEY ARE: these statements are those which ACKNOWLEDGE fears, feelings & concerns - this allows someone to feel "heard and validated."
So think twice before damaging your relationships, because there is more at stake than meets the eye!!!
Love, Kim :)